free while in beta ⭐
your little book
of standards
write your rules, your red flags, the way you want to be loved. share the link — real people write you a letter. you feature the best ones. 💌
two minutes · no design skills
why make one?
you already have standards. this just writes them down — then lets the right people find you. 💅
it's you, finally written down
your rules, your flags, the way you want to be loved — one page that actually sounds like you. not five gym selfies.
the right people come to you
no swiping, no scrolling. share the link and let people apply — you're the main character, they do the interviewing.
you'll know who actually read it
a secret code word hides in your rules. the ones who skipped straight to sliding in? spotted instantly.
how it works
write your book 📖
rules, red flags, green flags, love languages. stuck? steal from our piles — no blank pages.
share your link 🔗
beforeyoulove.me/you — drop it in your bio, your story, anywhere people find you.
letters land 💌
real people apply to be your friend or more. the good ones? feature them — with their ok.
a few little books 👀
tap in, steal the format. every letter shown is real — featured with the sender's ok.
1. if you smoke, we won't work — "only when i drink" counts
…mention "espresso macchiato" in your let…
1. reply within the day or don't reply at all
…mention "negroni sbagliato" in your lett…
1. i overthink. you reassure. that's the trade.
…mention "mango lassi" in your letter — s…